Nicole Thomte , LMFT

Nicole Thomte (pronouns she/her or they/them) is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) licensed in Minnesota - MN LMFT 3853, bringing 13 years of clinical experience to work with individuals, couples, and families. Nicole centers a practice that intentionally serves people who live outside dominant social expectations, offering affirmative, sex-positive care for LGBTQIA+ clients and those involved in kink, consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and varied relationship structures while respecting asexual identities.

Her approach blends a non-directive, exploratory stance with solution-focused techniques and an intersectional feminist perspective. Nicole frames clients as the experts in their own lives and works as a collaborative guide, helping identify patterns, connections, and practical steps toward goals rather than relying solely on diagnostic labels. Humor and warmth are often part of sessions, easing the burden of stress and fostering genuine engagement.

Nicole’s clinical background includes work at a behavioral health agency after obtaining a state intern license in 2013 and extensive group supervision and facilitation with Gender Justice Nevada beginning in November 2012 through July 2018. During that time she provided survivor group facilitation and individual, couple, and family therapy, learning from survivors of sex- and gender-based violence, sex/gender diverse young people, families of diverse persons, and sex workers. She is a compassionate, driven advocate for people pushed to society’s margins and is committed to providing inclusive support so clients can make meaningful changes on their own terms.

Therapeutic Approaches and Online Care with Nicole Thomte

Nicole uses client-centered therapy to create a supportive, non-directive space where the person’s own goals and values guide the work. This approach emphasizes empathy, active listening, and collaboration, and is well suited to exploring identity, relationships, and life transitions.

She also draws on solution-focused therapy, which concentrates on practical, goal-oriented steps and small changes that lead toward desired outcomes. That approach can be helpful for clients who want clear strategies to address stress, communication problems, or relationship concerns.

Nicole incorporates elements of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) when clients need tools for managing intense emotions, improving interpersonal effectiveness, and developing coping skills. These techniques often complement her client-centered and solution-focused work.

Finding the right approach is part of the therapeutic process, and Nicole collaborates with each person to tailor methods to their needs, goals, and preferences. She works alongside clients to determine what feels most useful and adjusts over time.

Online therapy options - including video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging - provide flexibility for scheduling and make it easier to access consistent support. These formats allow licensed professionals to offer ongoing care that fits varied lifestyles, geographic constraints, and accessibility needs.